Thu, 11/27/2008 - 12:45am

They say birds of a feather flock together, and the fact that Howdy works on a clam boat with a crew of men who have either been arressted for dwi, lost their liscence, done time in jail, countless attempts at rehab , and are all using drugs , where does that leave him ? If he wasn't into drugs then he wouldn't associate with guys like that !!

Wed, 11/26/2008 - 9:59am

You are wrong 1:22 p.m. If someone is in an accident and suspected of DWI, you do NOT need a court order for blood. If the suspect is injured to the point where he is transported to the hospital and can't be tested on the alcotest at the police dept., then an officer will respond to the hospital to obtain a blood kit asap. Usually following the rescue rig. I send my sympathies to both families at this tough time. Show your love to your families this holiday season and always because you never know when God will call on you. Take care and God Bless you all and please don't drink and drive.

Wed, 11/26/2008 - 9:00am

As one of the many persons who attended Denise's funeral yesterday - I can only say that the pain that has been put onto her family is practically unbearable. James has lost the love of his life and his best friend and the children will no longer be able to feel their mothers arms around them when they are in need. So so sad. Nothing can be said to heal their pain or fill the void that Denise's absence has left.

Mon, 11/24/2008 - 12:06am

Sad, Sad , Sad

Sun, 11/23/2008 - 8:00pm

Uhhhhhh- It's a little different than just simply spilling a glass of milk!

Sat, 11/22/2008 - 1:35pm

To all of you people and your ridiculous opinions and accusations i just want to let you know that you are not doing the world any good by leaving your nasty messages on this story. Charges and facts about the accident that happened almost a week go are still pending so you don't even know exactly what happened. Personally, I want to say my thoughts and prayers go out to the family and close friends of Denise. Howdy is my uncle and I love him dearly. For whatever reason God did not want his life that night. It is called an accident because it wasn't purposely done, it's kinda like when you spill a glass of of milk. Howdy is slowly dealing with both the emotional and physical pain from the accident and death of the other driver. The fact is, it wasn't by fault, but by coincidence. (Karen you need to learn to determine the difference between public and private.)

Fri, 11/21/2008 - 10:13pm

I would first like to say to James and the kids (all 4), I am so sorry. I had worked with Denise for 5 yrs prior. She'd do anything you asked of her. All this squabbling about fault is stupid. That accident was horrible. Maybe they had liquor unopened and it got punctured in the crash. Not even important. We should all keep both families in prayer.

Fri, 11/21/2008 - 3:47pm

First I would like to say to the family, I am so very sorry for our loss. It was not only the family who lost, but friends too. I will always be here for you.

I would like to say to the people who are criticizing people's spelling and punctuation on this article. This is all about Denise and her family, not your English lessons. These people went on line to say how sorry they are about the loss of a friend, not to be judged by people. You have no right to judge anyone. If you go on this site to correct people's grammer, then maybe you should not visit this site. This is for the grieving family and friends.

Shron

Fri, 11/21/2008 - 1:22pm

here's what harold's neice told me he WAS drinking at a beef and beer(earlier in the day) he doesn't remember what happenned he just remembers hitting something but i repeat he had been drinking in fact he's charged with dwi and not wearing his seat belt. you do not get charged with dwi when you are clean and sober. the only reason why if in fact his alcohol level came back 0 would have been that they took it later on. the fact is in order to do a blood test for alcohol you have to have a court order. and yes when god creats us he also decides when we will pass away........does it make it any easier absolutely not. do i feel bad for harold absolutely not. i feel bad for denise's family. NO child should have to deal with the death of their mother at such a young age. and yes i am aware some of her children are older but they are not 60 something and dealing with a natural death. my heart goes out to denise's family and friends.

Fri, 11/21/2008 - 12:30pm

I want to start off by saying to Sarah & James and the rest of Denise's family & friends that I am so sorry for your loss. I have taken the time to read all of the comments written and she seems like she was a very special woman who will be missed dearly. I am Howdy's sister-in-law Lisa I am not trying to make a saint out of Howdy he has made mistakes in his life as have all of us including myself. I just want to let you know that our family is feeling your pain & I feel Sarah put it best when she said that we will never know the same Howdy again, my children adore thier Uncle Howd as they call him and a big part of him will never be the same. Although it was in a different manor many of you out there are aware that we lost my mother in law way to early in life we to have children and grandchildren and neices and nefews who deeply miss her every day. So my point would be that all the people with the negative comments who want to jump to conclusions and cast blame don't waste your energy on all of that hate. No matter what happened it was an accident and I think that both of our familys need peoples support and prayers right now more than anything. Again to Denise's entire family I cannot put into words and how sorry we are for your loss. And as to those people who are "out for blood" I only ask you to wait until all of the facts are known before you pass your judgement and remember that he has to live with this by himself in the end regaurdless of who may have crossed the line.

Fri, 11/21/2008 - 10:06am

To the person who left a comment on Thu, 11/20/2008 - 10:51am correcting someone's spelling you better check you own spelling, grammar and punctuation. ( now who looks uneducated ) You can't believe what you read, especially in the "FISH WRAP" called the AC Press, word is she crossed the center line drunk.

Fri, 11/21/2008 - 9:10am

Now we have physics experts on this forum. Too bad no one passed their English class in grade school. I feel the Herald should put an end to this forum. Enough already!

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 10:51pm

Wow soo everyone on here must feel like *** look at the comment from the lady who died child. He says right there that god takes everyone for a reason his mothers time here on earth was up thats a great way to look at it keep your head up hunny shes looking down on you and proud of you. For everyone that is talkin *** bout this man Harold becica i dont know him but from the lady who pass away child can except t hat it was an accident and live with the fact his mother is gone and he doesnt blame this man.. How can you?? Who gave anybody the right to pre-judge this man and her child dont even have hard feelings against him. He even states that he wasnt drunk either. Things happen i dont know either side of the people that were involved. But i can say that its a sad situation but whats sadder is the people who have nothing better to do then put someone down just for a horrible mistake that he made that went torribly worng. We dont no what hppened we werent there. What if he dropped something and went to pick it up and lost control. We have all done it. If he hit a tree and killed himself you all would be on here saying aww this is so sad i pray for the mans family blah blah blah stop judgeing because your life isnt so great you have to go and make some man feel even worse then i am sure he already does. No matter what anyone says this man is never going to be able to live normal again. But you will so stop being childish. I do pray for both families because even now its not fully over and everyone else shut up keep things to yourself. nothing is uglier then a person who gets a high off of making other people feel lik crap to cover up their life because they dont have one.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 9:09pm

OH MY GOODNESS!!! First off I would like to extend my condolences to the families involved. That said...I have to address this. I cannot express strongly enough my shock and awe at the illiterate people commenting on this subject. It is like a really bad episode of "Attack of the Idiots". It is never ending and one post actually has MORE spelling errors than the last...if that's even possible. It is really embarrassing. I just keep wondering if all of the people commenting are products of the Cape May County school system. I pray that the people commenting are from all over the country and coincidentally spell and write that poorly rather than this being an example of what a poor education system we have locally. If not I'm going to home school my kids. I get that this is a passionate subject, but have mercy...please spell check, grab a dictionary...something. It is really hard to even follow the point when it is so hard to read. GEESH! And again, God bless both families.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 8:05pm

I am sitting here right now, the night before Denise's service, reading all these comments and I am in tears! We all want to have closure, to make sense of this, but the finger pointing is ridiculous. My husband has been Denise and James friend for over 15 years. I am jealous that I've only shared the last 6 years of my life with them. James was the best man in our wedding 3 years ago. Their youngest daughter, Alyssa, is my husband's godchild. We spent countless weekends, birthdays, communions, celebrations for every and no reason at all together. And I sit here today, knowing they will never be the same. Denise had one of the biggest hearts I've ever known a person to have. She was straight forward and told you how it was, no sugar coating it. But that is what made her real!!!James, Sara, Janelle, Kevin, Alyssa...know that Bob and I are always here for you. ALWAYS! Whoever was at fault, whatever happened that night,is not for any of us to judge! We all answer to our own God when our time comes. We ask for forgiveness from our God on our judgement day. Please just pray for Denise's family to find their way. And pray also for the Becica family who will suffer in their own way. God bless us all.
Love, Jamie

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 7:42pm

Cape May County is nothing but a bunch of ignorant, babbling idiots who can't mind their own business and love talking *** on everybody else. This forum proves it.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 7:36pm

A very reliable source just informed me that Howdy's BAC test came back clean, so everybody on here that's saying he was drunk, high, or whatever, the truth is he was clean, so shut the **** up.
As for his brother (who has NOTHING to do with this) being seen in Wawa with red eyes, my husband drove a tow truck for years and those guys are on call 24/7 working on very little sleep and are basically walking zombies. The hours are brutal and you hardly get a chance to eat or rest between calls. Anybody that says different ought to try being a tow truck driver-it isn't as easy as it looks.
Also witnesses at the scene say the woman's car cut off Howdy, not the other way around. Just look at the video footage-Howdy was going west and after the accident his truck is still in the westbound lane. Common sense tells you that wouldn't happen if he crossed the line into her lane.
I said it before and I'll say it again-Howdy is one of the nicest guys I know.Whoever said he was "selfish and vindictive" on here, you must be drunk or high yourself because those two words do not describe Howdy at all. I've known him all my life..have YOU??-D.C. in Salem County

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 1:57pm

for 11/20 10:09 am god did have something to do with it u must not believe in god. god took my mother away from me, she did her time on earth. god puts every one here for a reason and takes them away 4 a reason . but u can believe whatever u want . people die every day in car accidents, everyone wants to put the blame on howdy it was an accident he didn't say OK well I'm gonna go get into a car and go kill someone he wasn't drunk he had a breathalyzer when he went to the hospital no alcohol was found in his system.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 1:48pm

Reading all these nasty comments on here just reminds me of the reason why I moved out of Cape May County...nothing but a bunch of *** who get into everybody else's business and talk *** without knowing all of the facts. I have known Howdy my entire life and he is one of the sweetest, kindest people I've ever known who would never hurt anyone intentionally. Unless you were at the crash site or were one of the arresting officers, you ought to keep your mouth shut until all the facts come out from the investigation, which remember, people, hasn't been completed yet, and probably won't be released for a long time. I understand when something tragic like this happens, human nature looks for someone or something to blame. If Howdy WAS under the influence, then he will pay the consequences. But reading all these posts on here crucifying the man before all the facts are known is classic Cape May County ***. My prayers go out to both families.-D.C. in Salem Co.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 12:23pm

Denise may you rest in peace. May god help your family through this tring time and make their heart at ease knowing you are with you maker and one day they will see you again. You left this earth way to soon. I will keep you and your family in the thoughts and prays. I will also pray that the other victim. Hopfully he will forgive his self for the accident and your family can also forgive him.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 11:37am

In reference to the Wed 9:46pm comment.

Who investigated before the Fatal Team was formed ?
Did someone get theirl feelings hurt at the scene. Let the officer do his job.
Don't let your personal feelings enter into the professional picture.
Especially at such a tragic time. Think before you speak.

Maybe we all should read and act on Shelly's comment.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 11:25am

People make bad decisions everyday, drinking and then driving is one of them. What we should all take away from this is to make better decisions before we act because our bad decisions could possibly effect more than just us.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 10:51am

For the *** who posted a comment about mike elias on 11/19/08 9;46pm,please learn how to spell it is investigators.I f you are implyig Mike talked to the Herald you are so far from the truth he never said nothing about who was at fault.When you post a comment like that also read it before you post it your sentence is missing words.It is a shame that jealously has to show it ugly head in the time of tradegy.These families our mourning and a uneducated *** takes senseless shots at a person I respect. I work with Mike and I learned alot from all of 20yrs experience and all his accident investigation experience. The Middle Twp Fatal Accident Team along with The County Accidetnt team will make it determation after all the evidence is examained not just mike elias.So in the future be a man and say it to his face not in a comment section of someone who just lost her life the family deserves more respect then that.

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 10:09am

11/20@12:45 How can you blame God? You're saying that God decides that soemone should go in such a horrific way and others should simply die in their sleep? It was an accident caused by whoever crossed into the other's path. God didn't make this happen!

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 7:22am

I have read every comment and can't help but respond. So sad...That's all I can say about this whole incident. First of all I would like to send my heart felt sympathy to both families. I have lost people in my life and I know how debilitating and difficult it is to endure. I hope that you have God in your life to help you all. This was a terrible accident. Unfortunately hundreds of thousands of accidents happen every day. People get hurt and some die. I just can't believe that the people in Cape May County are so cruel and judgemental toward each other. The facts of this case are not known, or publicized. How can anyone pass judgement on either of these people. Their families are devastated over this, I am sure. And I am sure Howdy is as well. Loss is never easy, but there is a loving God that will walk with us through this tragedy and whatever other tragedies we see in our lifetime. It just saddens me to see such an attack on people. As Jesus said, " Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." We are all sinners and make mistakes and no one should judge another person. Instead of pointing fingers, let's all say a prayer for everyone involved, that they can have some peace about this terrible loss. There is power in prayer. Let's do our part and stand together as a community and provide support to each other. God Bless, SHELLY

Thu, 11/20/2008 - 12:45am

for the people out there that don't think god had anything to do with this he did. god planned out the lady's life for her, yes its sad that she had to go the way she did but that's how god intended it. howdy was not drunk that night, so stop blaming the alcohol. it happend 4 a reason. my heart gose out to Denise Cianchetta's family soo sorry for ur loss. love u uncle howdy

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 10:53pm

Denise's family, you all are in my thoughts and prayers. I bet when this is all over you will in fact find that Howdy was drunk. He was the town drunk, was at a Beef and Beer and then was at a bar afterwards....NO ALCOHOL, yeah, right. If alcohol was a contributing factor, I hope he spends some time in JAIL!!! What a shame.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 9:56pm

This is a tragic situation that involved my daughters father and not her. Our hearts go out to the Cianchetta family for their loss. This situation does not involve my daughter so please leave her out of this. I can only hope that other people can be as mature as Sara was with the comment she had left.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 9:46pm

why do people say the f150 crossed the line? were they there? the police say it did or they assume it did but it was still in its lane at the seen. [mike ellas should let the real investigiters do there job] then let the herald put it in the paper.i would like to sorry to the cianchetta family for there lost and the becica family for having to deal with something like this

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 7:49pm

People on here really need to grow up and act like ADULTS. Someone has lost their life and another is in the hospital. I have read every comment on here and I cant believe what most of them are saying. Also what happened was an accident. they call it that for a reason. Its not like Howdy said to him self today, well Im going to drive down Indian Trail and hit a pick up truck and make the drive deceased. A lot of people have accidents every year.

Also to Tue, 11/18/2008 - 6:05pm ------Why are you bringing tow truck compainies into this? That will make them look bad.

Well I send my heart and prayers to both families and hope that Denise's family can find it in their hearts somewhere along the line to forgive Howdy.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 6:08pm

God allows bad to happen so good will come of it

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 6:08pm

okay this is a horrible thing for both families. i know howdy quite well and yes he was a drinker, but he is one of the sweetest men i have ever met. he would do anything for anyone and im sure he is very upset and sorry for what he has done. it was an accident, whether is or not there was alchol involved is not anyones decision but the courts and not everyone elses idea to bicker about what they think is the way things went down. alll it is is drama both families are dealing with an exceptionally great deal of pain. howdy was a good man and yeah he liked to drink but unless you have proof and are ready to put it up on here than keep your trap shut. it is a very tragic thing for all and the last thing people need is to run their mouths about things they know nothing about. it is very sad and could have happend to anyone, whether they were drinking or not, think about it this way, anyone could cross the line while they are driving due to a lot of circumstances, like an animal, cell phone, reaching for something in the car like a cigarette changing the radio station, or looking off the road for a minute. even speeding and passing another car and thinking you have enough room. my stepmother had that happen at 8 oclock in the morning and the driver was not drinking. i hope it all makes people wake up and be more cautious when they drive. but stop saying howdy was a bad man because if you knew him he loved his daughter dearly and was a sweet down to earth guy who would never intentionally hurt someone and he has to live with this outcome for the rest of his life its not something anyone ever forgets.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 4:55pm

All I have to say there is alot of out pouring for the person that caused this accident. What about the victim. Denise is no longer here...She died because someone hit her head on and she died. I can never see my friend again. I am so sad over this. It is horrible the way people talk. You should all be ashamed. I miss my friend, she was sweet funny and a great person. I have known her for over 15 years. Her husband, children and grandchildren will not see her again....this also encludes her family and friends. Denise was a special time. Yes it was an accident and a tragic one at that.... It was not her time it was taken from her. If one more person says how wonderful that the person that caused this accident is still alive...I am going scream....

Denise hun rest in peace. I am sure in the long run we will all know the truth of what happened that night. You haven't left my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for being in my life you were very special to me. I know God has you in his safe arms and you are well now. I miss you and I won't forget you...ever.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 4:35pm

Alright so to all you peopel saying howdie should go rot in jail and how he is such a bad person-

i think you people all need to learn all the facts. they never once said that he was driving drunk. they tested him for it but they always do when there is a car accident. not that it makes the family less hurt. there is no way that any of you people can sit here and judge him, half of you probably dont even know him. learn the facts before you start talking about someone who is in the hospital after something so tramatizing. do honestly you think he isn't upset by this? that he could have caused so much pain for one lady and her family and not be extremely upset by it? well you're all wrong.

Stewie G-
nobody asked you to come on here and tell things that have happened to him in the past. and yeah he's made mistakes. you haven't? doubt it. there is no way that you can say that howdie was the one who messed things up with his "sweet daughter" i'm related to both of them and i know shes played her part in messing things up. not that you should even bring that up. has nothing to do with the accident.

i tihnk its funny that her own daughter is being so mature about this compared to the people who don't know either one. shes the one that is dealing with the most and she is being more grown up then all of you. my heart and the rest of the becica familys hearts do go out to the family. we are deeply sorry for your loss. rip.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 2:22pm

LIsten here peoples.....accidents do happen.....but to sit here and put Howdy down is just so wrong.....he is human and makes mistakes just like the rest of us..so I think everyone should just back off,,,he is suffering enough with out everyone putting him down......what if it were the other way around? HUH? What if? Yea what I thought then no body would be saying anything would they...?
So please back off and let the people involved heal......If any of you out there beleive in the Lord above then this happen for a reason...this is how he wanted her to go and it was her calling...Remember we all have our number...

So Please let everyone heal

A Friend from Woodbine

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 1:15pm

how can you be at a beef and beer all day then go to another bar and NOT DRINK!!!!!!!!!!!and being KNOWN as a town drinker???????? So shut the *** up about alcohol!!!!!!!! OK ***!!!!! HE WAS DRINKING AND better believe it he caused the accident, cannot and will not believe he had no alcohol in his blood.so stop the issues about "HOWDY" not having a drink and getting behind the wheel >>>>>>PERIOD!!!!Very hard to believe just cant see how you can be at a bar knowing that he drinks mostly all the time and not drink, freaking retard! dont try to cover the guys mistakes. Some people just do not learn untill its too ***LATE!!
SHUT the ***!!

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 9:52am

Please don't blame God. The woman died because of someone else coming into her lane. Yes, it was an accident, but the crap about it being her time-come on now. So you're saying God caused the one driver to cross lanes? You're saying God is responsible for taking lives? God makes people go get guns and shoot others? The fact of the matter is, it was an accident, and whoever caused the accident is the reason this woman is no longer here. I'm not trying to make the living driver feel any worse because I'm sure he's suffering mentally because of this, but I would like to believe that God wouldn't wish that kind of suffering on him.

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 1:05am

first off no 1 was drinking and driving. everything happens for a reason apparently they were both on the rode at the same time for a reason, and apparently it was her time to go. and everyone wants to bring up stuff that happened in the past with Howey what about the lady ?????? even tho nothing they did in the past has anything to do with what happened that night. everyone makes mistakes. and for the people that were talking about his daughter and his brother, how childish can u be ??????????they had nothing to do with any of it. so don't bring them into it. and Howey has lost people in his life, he lost his mother just like the lady's kid's did so he knows what it is like too. it's not like he meant to kill the lady. and before u start making stories y don't u wait for the real one ? my heart goes out to the 4 kids that lost their mother. and uncle Howey i love u . everything will fall in place 4 u. and for everyone else remember god has planed all of our lives from when we were put on earth and form the day he takes us away

Wed, 11/19/2008 - 12:21am

everything happens 4 a reason, maybe it was her time to go. stop putting all the blame on uncle Howey. god made this happen 4 a reason. so lets all stop being mean, half the people don't even know the true story. everyone wants to bring up all the faults that he had in the past, and also bring his daughter and brother in it what do they have to do with any of it ??????grow the hell up. love u uncle

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 6:53pm

Reading some of these posts, it is obvious that many of you come from the Villas or Kensington by the Sea. Most of you sound very ignorant making claims before you KNOW the facts. Also, if you want to leave comments and sound somewhat intelligent, please learn to spell, use capitalization, and proper grammar. Many of you sound like backwoods West Virginia.
A. Smith

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 6:45pm

To Sara
You are truly nobel and commendable you are exactly right about it all, this should not be about blaime nor should it be about this ongoing online battle. I admire your strength and your view. I wish I could be a strong as you are I myself have had family in this situation and I do know how easy it is to point the blaim. You are going about this the nobel way and im sure your mom would be proud. I am truly sorry for your loss and keep your head. Have hope and Bless you and your family.

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 6:05pm

I THINK COURT HOUSE TOWING SHOULD TEST HIS BROTHER I SAW HIM IN WAWA SMELLED LIKE POT EYES WHERE RED AND HE GOT IN TO HIS TOW TRUCK... I FEEL BAD FOR THE FAMILY.. FOR WHAT I KNOW OF HODY HE WAS A NICE MAN HE IS THE KIND OF GUY WHO WOULD GIVR U THE SHIRT OFF HIS BACK

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 5:44pm

I have just one question the police say Howdy crossed over into the other lane then why did the accident occur in HIS lane? Does not sound right now does it he has been cleared of drinking so those of you who THINK they know him, and his past that has nothing to do with that night. And my heart does go out to denise's family it is extremely heartbreaking especially around this time of year, however she is the one that was heard driving crazy after a fight with her husband. So we really need to look at this harder to see who's at fault here somebodys past should not decide what really happened that night. Get better Howdy and God bless Denise's family

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 2:29pm

My HEART GOES OUT TO DENISES FAMILY I AM SO SORRY FOR YOU LOST, AN EVEN THOUGH I DID'NT KNOW HER AS WELL AS SOME, THE TIME I DID KNOW HER WAS WONDERFUL SHE COULD ALWAYS PUT A SMILE ON MY FACE. SHE WILL BE TERRIABLE MISSED AND ALWAYS LOVED.

TLR

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 1:42pm

It's unbelievable that this has happened. I don't believe that Howdy sober during the accident since he just lost his job driving a tow truck because he was drinking on the job at a bar with the company truck.

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 1:24pm

Howdy is one of my cuzins and accidents happen!!!So stop sayin tht he wuz drunk cuz he WASNT!!!!!!!

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 12:43pm

***What the people need to know is the truth about this guy. He was fired from his last job as a tow truck driver because he was drinking at Jakes Bar while on duty WITH THE COMPANY FLATBED TRUCK!!!!!!!!!!! He has lied and has made to nothing but broken promises to his sweet daughter. There were times when he seen his daughter and was noodling in and out of coherence. OK lets just say that his blood alcohol level was at or below the legal limit then I would have to say what kind of pill was he on or how much pot did he smoke at that time. He is a vindicative and selfish man who I'm ashamed to even call him a man because he gives us real men a bad name. I've seen him driving with an open 6 pack of beer before he even had legally gotten his license, and this wasn't that long ago mind you. Let's not give him his 15 minutes of fame, lets think about the poor family of Denise Cianchetta who will never see her again, lets think about Howdy poor daughter with whom he has broken promise after promise to her. Ask Howdy why his daughter hasn't spoken to him in months. Lets pray that the Middle Township police and prosecutor can build a strong case against Howdy. No family should have to bury someone before their time, and no liar should walk the earth free. I know who I'm praying for tonight, and its not for a speedy recovery for a liar.*** -Stewie G.

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 12:36pm

after reading the comments posted on this page i thank those of u who left heartfelt thoughts, as for rest of u im sick to my stomach that u think it is ok to treat this as if it were nothing.
When push comes to shove it doesnt matter what this man did or didnt have in his system , and it truly doesnt matter who was or wasnt at fault. what does matter is that i will never pull into my mothers drive way to see her again, i can never ask her for advice ever again, and for the rest of my life i mourn the loss a life taken too early.
to the becica's my heart goes out to you because you too are mourning the lost of a man that u will never see again, ur howdie will never be the same. am sorry for that and i can't imagine the pain your family is going through i can only imagine my own.
i love you mom!!!
Sara

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 11:59am

let me start by saying my heart goes out to her family.. it is a sad time. we will never under stand " why " .. i am the cousin of Howdy. nothing i can say will change what happend or take away the pain.. her family is going through.. i can't express the pain i feel for the family... as for our side of the family.. howdy is a good person.. and he will have to live w/this for the rest of his life. as we will too. because family help's each other through theese times. i sit here and read all the hatefull thing's people have to say. and it tear's my heart out. how mean people can be.. i was thinking if it was the other way around. . alot of people wold have good thing's to say about him .yes people do make mistake's..and some of the thing's some of you are saying. "NO ONE IS PERFECT" and i'm sure almost certn't u all have made chioces that wern't good but just didn't get cought.. just because your choice didn't cause the same out come dosen't mean it was ok.. because u didn't end a life.. but you don't know if you were to turn you radio station,or anwser you'r cell phone or looking in the mirrow could cause the same damage so think about that the next time your driving and you go to do one of them... and their are alot of what if's.. but their is only one person who can awnser the ?'s we all have.. so hopfully people will try and thank their higher power for what they have and not take it for granted . and remember life ie to short and u nver know what lies ahead.. may everyone involved w/both sides of the family's work together and help them get through this.. my heart and prayer's go out for all...w/love kat xoxo

Tue, 11/18/2008 - 11:46am

Everyone needs to stop pointing fingers about who's to blame. The most important thing to remember, is that it has happened...nothing can be changed so now it's time to comfort both families involved in the tragedy. Accidents happen, nobody was killed intentionally...some posters have been carrying on like it was a premeditated murder. I know you might be upset...but results are official....nothing is set in stone and like many posters have said before, its still under investigation. My heart goes out to those involved...and those first on scene who had to witness this tragedy. (neighbors and police/fire/ems)